J would not
take out his notebook. He needed to finish his narrative writing. We had talked
about what he needed to do last week in class. It didn’t get done. Today, he
clearly did not want to tackle the problem so claimed again and again that he
did not know what to do. “But J, please go get your notebook and I will talk to
you about what you need to do. It’s not much, you already started the work; you
already have a great idea.”
He did not
get the notebook. He sat idle at his desk.
Finally, I
got the notebook.
I reviewed
the page we had discussed last week to remind him what needed to be done.
Almost nothing, really. He had a few sentences to write, and this is a kid who
can write.
He did
nothing.
His name had
already been moved to the “red zone” so he would have no recess. There was only
a slight chance that he would do the writing at recess, but there was a chance.
He didn’t
make it to recess.
He refused
to go to the quiet table in lunch.
He refused
to walk up to the office with the Vice Principal.
He refused
to talk with his Mom when she came to pick him up.
I keep
trying to figure out what I could have done differently. The biggest mistake I
feel I made was asking him to sit at the Quiet Table at lunch. If I had not
added that stipulation, he may have come around and been ready to work at
recess.
May have.
sigh
It is a
tricky balancing act to work with the emotions of a 9 year old. or, a 43 year
old, for that matter. In the end, both J and I are human. Neither of us handled
yesterday’s problems with perfection, but both of us handled them as best we
could in the moment. And, being human, we can look at yesterday’s mistakes to
improve today’s choices.
This is a
slice of annoyances from life this week. Check here for happier slices from teacher writers around the country.
We all have those days and it reminded me instantly of one of my little friends. I think this is a happy slice. Reflecting on our day is a happy choice! Thanks for posting!
ReplyDeleteEighth graders (and their teacher) also have days like this. Sometimes I keep myself up at night wondering what I could have done differently. Sometimes I suspect that nothing could have made a difference. Some days are just like that, and I just have to wait to start over the next day.
ReplyDeleteThis is a slice many of us can relate to. It's great that we are human, and can learn from the past and move on.
ReplyDeleteWe all have days like this, wish for more wisdom... it's good that a new day will follow. I agree with Mommy Reads... reflecting is a good choice. Being willing to share it helps us all.
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